|here I am with my stretch marks, lose skin, |
and breasts which DO dangle without a bra. LOVING IT.
How am I supposed to minimize clothes, I'm heavy and plan to lose weight?
Dear stranger on the internet, you are more than good enough. Please don't live in the past or future you are perfect right now. If you're rapidly losing weight maybe keep one size down, but as a woman who has gone up and down between pregnancies it has been a conscious gift of self love to keep only what fits.
I am pregnant (or newly postpartum) how can I declutter my clothes?
I purged my maternity wardrobe then I did my nonmaternity while still pregnant. I designed a nice postpartum wardrobe of cute sweats, wrap dresses, maxi dresses,cross over tops, a cardigan,flowing pants, under belly maternity jeans that would work postpartum. I didnt want to leave looking nice up to chance.
Then I gave myself a gift. I shop at h&m, at ross, at thrifts. I didnt own any designer clothes. I discarded everything except that postpartum capsule wardrobe. I may lose weight but I will certainly have a new shape.
I am two months postpartum and I have carefully added new pieces to build on that, but it has been truly joyful! Most people wouldnt describe dressing their postpartum body as joyful. I blame minimalism and a capsule wardrobe. Im also growing out a pixie haircut and I still feel cute.
I got rid of it all, but I hate shopping with this body..
I feel you. I have icky fat days. Let's stop for a second and exercise. I don't mean hitting the gym. I mention emotionally.
What can you thank you body for today when you start that cycle of negative self talk?
Do you live with a chronic disease? Thank you for the good health TODAY. Are you blessed with good health? Well thank you for this body that never holds me back. Have you experienced trauma? Well thank you for healing. Are you a mama? Thank you body for getting pregnant, carrying to term, birthing at joyfully and peacefully, are you nursing? Thank you body for making some or all of the milk my babies needs. I solute you!
This body, with the big arms, cankles, hormone related deodorant allergy right now, stretch marks, lumpy full thighs, face with gets VERY full in pregnancy yes THIS ONE.
I love it.
Thank you for carrying the groceries.
Thank you for carrying the babies to term.
Thank you for three joyful homebirths.
Thank you for healing the injuries.
Thank you for nursing.
Thank you for this body.
And then let's talk fat. Take a moment to comfort the monster. Women are simply "not allowed" fat in this culture unless it is firm breasts, and full undimpled bottoms and hips.
Men are "not allowed" to be lithe, fat, or thin. Pure muscle, but not too much-that's tacky. Wow! What a fucking prison. Maybe it's time to stop.
Maybe there are amazing thin things like gazelles and grey hounds and you.
Maybe there are amazing fat things like house cats and elephants and you.
Okay, Okay, I loooove myself, what do I wear it honestly looks bad?
If you want to follow trends pick popular colors you like. Or bag/shoes/etc of the moment. Let your clothes follow the actual body you live in. Some things are designed to best flatter the lithe while others the curvy. Don't MOLD YOURSELF! Find a new shop. Follow fashion icons who have a body like you. See what looks good on them. Twiggy wore shift dresses and tall boots, Marilyn wore cross top dresses with full skirts. Things that embraced their amazing shapes. Be comfortable. Be confidence. Be yourself. Wearing hiking boots or flip flops or cargo shorts or catsuits every damn day. It really doesn't matter. Just love yourself.
And please dear God, ditch the clothes that don't fit.
I have no money for clothes...
Try consignment shops, try collecting one piece at a time. thrift carefully, check ebay, ask your friendslist, post to freecycle, host a naked lady party or free swap.
http://www.pinupgirlclothing.com/jenny-dress-harlequin.html - amazing clothes xs-2x
http://www.modcloth.com/ - amazing clothes small -4x
https://www.freecycle.org/ - ditch your old clothes and ask for things that spark JOY.